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Wedding Etiquette | Be the Best Guest
8 Tips for Being a Good Wedding Guest

I’m writing this blog post somewhere in the desert between Los Angeles and Phoenix. Dave and I spent an extended weekend in California celebrating a friend’s wedding weekend in Newport Beach. Now he’s off on a business trip and I’m wrapping up the week in Arizona at my parent’s house with the kiddos!

I enjoyed actually relaxing and just being a guest at Kristi and Michael’s wedding on Saturday! As I watched the photographers maneuver around the ceremony and reception documenting the events of the celebration I couldn’t help but think about all the things that well-meaning guests do that potentially interfere with the professional photographer’s work at a wedding.

Here are my top 8 tips for being a great guest at your next wedding!

  1. Put the iPad down please! There’s nothing worse than a bride passing through an aisle of digital tablets as she approaches her future husband!
  2. If you must take pictures during the ceremony, stick to your small cell phone, or better yet, use a real camera.
  3. Under no circumstances should you block the aisle with the above mentioned devices in order to get the photo. The bride has likely invested thousands of dollars to have a professional photograph her wedding and shouldn’t have her ceremony photos cluttered with over zealous guests.
  4. In that case that you do capture a great moment from the wedding on film, use the wedding hashtag when posting to social media so it can be shared with the bride and groom and all the other guests online.
  5. Hold onto your flash. Using your flash during key moments of the ceremony and reception will interfere with the professional photographer’s lighting and can easily ruin a great image!
  6. If you’re part of a formal group photo, make sure you arrive on time! Locating distant cousins for a formal group portrait tends to be like herding cats. Make it easy on the photographer and get where you need to be when you’re supposed to be there. That way everyone can get to the fun stuff like eating and drinking a bit sooner!
  7. Please don’t “uncle Bob” the professional by suggesting different locations or better uses of light. Trust that the professional knows where and how to get the best photographs for the bride and groom!
  8. Last but not least, relax and enjoy the party and ignore the photographer as much as possible. No smiling and posing for the camera is required unless specifically asked for! The best shots are the ones where everyone looks like themselves having a great time!

Happy Wedding Season!!


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  1. Natalie says:

    Oh my goodness, this post is awesome!

  2. Emilia Jane says:

    Hell to the yes. Love this post!

  3. Renee says:

    LOVE these!!! So pretty + everyone is dressed so well 🙂

  4. Brooke says:

    Yes!! 🙂 And beautiful pictures to accompany these important suggestions! 🙂

  5. Caitlin says:

    this is such an awesome post!

  6. Perfectly said! Such great advice for guests!

  7. what a great post!! GREAT idea!!

  8. Janelle C. says:

    I wish I can share this post over and over! Love it!!!

  9. LOVE this post! The images are amazing too!

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